NewsOctober 4, 2016 8:44 PM ET52,661 views

Counterparts drummer was kicked out for domestic violence

Late last month Counterparts announced the departure of drummer Kelly Bilan. An explanation was not provided, though last week Bilan's ex-girlfriend put forth a statement alleging that he was removed after she pressed charges against him for domestic violence. Here's what she had to say:
"I'd like everyone to be made aware of why my relationship with Kelly Bilan ended. Although realistically it should have ended a year ago, like most victims of abuse I romanticized my abuser. This isn't a cry for attention, but rather a warning to other innocent women, and a demonstration of solidarity for victims of domestic abuse. I believed he would get better and that he loved me and didn't want to hurt me. Over the course of our relationship he belittled my friends, my family, my career, me. He constantly had something to say about my clothing making me self conscious and trying to convince me that every man was just trying to sleep with me. Drove away all my male friends by insisting they never cared for me, that they only wanted to sleep with me. He made me feel inferior to him. He would cheat on me constantly, sneaking around so much that no one even knew he was doing this, and would emotionally abuse me calling me every awful name when he was mad at me. Would push me, barricade me in our home when I would try to leave, lunge at me as if he was going to assault me. But still always gaslighting me and manipulating me into thinking it was all my fault. The last time I saw Kelly Bilan will be the last time I ever see him. I pressed charges on him for assault after a disagreement struck a nerve and he pushed me face down then proceeded to choke me so hard I couldn't breathe, leaving me with marks along my neck. "I have been very thankful for the support I've received from my friends and family and for everyone who's stepped up and shown what amazing friends they are. I want to thank Brendan and the rest of Counterparts for being such advocates against domestic violence, they were just as surprised by this behaviour as I was. I'm thankful to have met and be able to call Counterparts my friends, and will continue to support them wholeheartedly."

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anonymous 10/4/2016 5:56:10 PM

when your music isnt hard, you have to get street cred somehow i guess

anonymous 10/4/2016 6:07:05 PM

Kickin Impossible

anonymous 10/4/2016 6:08:36 PM

Counterpuncher 88

anonymous 10/4/2016 6:20:05 PM

see ya.

anonymous 10/4/2016 6:36:58 PM

Let's see how classy Lambgoat commenters are

anonymous 10/4/2016 6:46:32 PM

How is Counterparts being a bunch of Narcs news

anonymous 10/4/2016 6:56:01 PM

vatican is a cancer.

anonymous 10/4/2016 7:09:26 PM

Damn! I'm g g gonna mm m miss you KKKelly!!!

anonymous 10/4/2016 7:10:58 PM

"How is Counterparts being a bunch of Narcs news" If kicking a low-life piece of trash out of your band makes you a "narc", then I support narcs.

anonymous 10/4/2016 7:16:55 PM

"If kicking a low-life piece of trash out of your band makes you a "narc", then I support narcs." Of course you do, everyone who digs this clown-ass band does

anonymous 10/4/2016 7:20:09 PM

But will he be deported?

anonymous 10/4/2016 7:30:38 PM

kellyisaboy on twitter

anonymous 10/4/2016 7:31:29 PM

He started a tweet off on September 20 with "Hitting is great and I love it..."

anonymous 10/4/2016 7:40:18 PM

chick sounds like a lying whore. pssy ass fcking band anyway. bunch of cucks

anonymous 10/4/2016 8:00:31 PM

Seriously?!? There are 3 sides to every story. What was her part in this??? Where is the proof?

anonymous 10/4/2016 8:10:16 PM

What are you gaining from this? Your life is probably so sad little girl. And Counterparts ... shame on you!!! You are just protecting yourselves without any proof. Ya, rock on ...

anonymous 10/4/2016 8:16:47 PM

damn, he's really gonna kick her ass now

anonymous 10/4/2016 8:22:34 PM

Twitter, kellyisaboy, Sept 20 ... "Hitting is great and I love it but USA is out hitting CAN 28-8 and losing 3-1 which means they're just taking themselves out of the play." Put it into context people!LOCUTORIO IN House

anonymous 10/4/2016 10:03:20 PM

Kick his ass seabass

anonymous 10/4/2016 11:36:48 PM

The Word Alive is stoked.

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:02:41 AM

when your sales suck you need side stories

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:34:04 AM

Third wave feminism is stoked. You said gaslighting. Tumblr politics prevail

anonymous 10/5/2016 2:22:57 AM

Kelly, you fckin' idiot...

anonymous 10/5/2016 2:50:04 AM

This bitch is lying, she hit him first, and when he protected himself she called the cops. Typical.

anonymous 10/5/2016 4:31:06 AM

Gaslighting for 2016's "overused word nobody ever uses correctly" Also unless dude has been convicted lambgoat is gonna get rightfully sued

anonymous 10/5/2016 5:32:24 AM

that's really not how the law works he'd have to sue his ex-girlfriend first for slander/libel/etc...and he can only win that if she's proven to be flatout lying, which aint gonna happen.

anonymous 10/5/2016 5:36:41 AM

Why would lambgoat get sued? You saying that makes no sense. They are reporting why he was kicked out. This is indeed why he was kicked out. They use first hand quotes from the band and the alleged victim. You are also a victim, of stupidity

anonymous 10/5/2016 5:37:36 AM

anyone who uses the word cuck or sides first with alleged abuser because it threatens their dubious masculinity deserves to get pillowcase full of soap bar treatment

anonymous 10/5/2016 6:28:36 AM

Sometimes you gotta choke a bitch. Amiright??

anonymous 10/5/2016 6:37:01 AM

I'm not siding with anybody but I firmly believe in innocent until proven guilty. I need proof. IF this really is true fck Kelly to the 10th degree.

anonymous 10/5/2016 6:51:30 AM

He doesn't want to work, he gets to bang on the drums all day.. I mean girl.. he gets to bang on the girl all day.

anonymous 10/5/2016 6:52:37 AM

If he hits girls anything like his drums, why is she complaining? #weakdrummer

anonymous 10/5/2016 7:39:16 AM

Yea, we need PROOF. SHOW US INTERNET TROLLS PRIVATE PHOTOS AND INTIMATE DETAILS OF YOUR LIFE SO WE CAN JUDGE YOUR ABUSE. HOW DARE YOU RAISE AWARENESS TO AN AWFUL PROBLEM THAT STATISTICALLY GOES WAY UNDERREPORTED AND IS NEVER RESOLVED. (Stop blaming victims, you cowards.)

anonymous 10/5/2016 8:03:36 AM

some of the comments here are disgusting.

anonymous 10/5/2016 8:41:47 AM

Funny how whenever DV is put on the table presumption of innocence fades away. To all those speaking in terms of 'victim' and 'abuser': you should at least use 'alleged' in front of those. That being said, if he did that, he's a worthless piece of great drummer.

anonymous 10/5/2016 8:55:42 AM

In other news. My shit smells like fresh coffee.

anonymous 10/5/2016 9:18:40 AM

I dont think that anyone on here has any right to BELITTLE his exgirlfriend for speaking the truth about what was going on. This is the exact reason why females are so afraid to tell people she is being abused. I know kelly personally- and this isnt the first time that this has happened in a relationship. So... maybe you love him because hes in a band- But remember that everyone has theyr own stories.

anonymous 10/5/2016 9:40:38 AM

"I dont think that anyone on here has any right to BELITTLE his exgirlfriend for speaking the truth about what was going on" That's the problem, it's still not the truth. It might very well be, but a claim is a one-side story until proven. And we're all adults here, so if someone has the guts to make a public statement should expect public opinions.

anonymous 10/5/2016 9:46:41 AM

If his exgirlfriend is charging Kelly with domestic assault, she will not be able to show photos or videos of the situation because the case is still open and being investigated. Research before you start doubting a female for speaking out.

anonymous 10/5/2016 9:55:57 AM

so much male entitlement up in here

anonymous 10/5/2016 9:59:03 AM

personally victimized by this loser myself... get some help dude

anonymous 10/5/2016 10:07:27 AM

Tim Labesis here, should have gotten the job done.

anonymous 10/5/2016 10:21:23 AM

I HOPE YOU CHOKE TO DEATH

anonymous 10/5/2016 10:40:33 AM

have multiple friends who know this chick... she is part of the whole feminism/lying for attention thing.

anonymous 10/5/2016 10:48:03 AM

Golden State still blew a 3-1 lead in the Finals.

anonymous 10/5/2016 10:54:46 AM

Should have taken notes from bitch t-ts Tim and hire a cop to do the beating for you.

anonymous 10/5/2016 11:05:32 AM

Count her parts and punch them.

anonymous 10/5/2016 11:41:18 AM

Let everyone know about your break-up?!? WHO GIVES A F&CK! fcking children, embarrassingly immature to even post about this. For all we know this girl is a slut and this dude is a nut job. To get LIVES, youre disappointing your parents..

anonymous 10/5/2016 11:46:02 AM

in4 backing your bros and blaming the chick

anonymous 10/5/2016 11:47:59 AM

If you want more proof to never date chicks in this scene, here it is. Constantly making up unverifiable shit to ruin the guys who actually contribute to this scene, and then the beta males in this scene will believe it because they wanna fck them and/or seem "woke". Stop snitchin

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:02:06 PM

HOLY FCK where's Aaron Bedard to stick up for this guy with a letter writing campaign?! p.s. I gotta try this gaslighting thing. sounds hott. "But still always gaslighting me and manipulating me..."

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:09:14 PM

i think that all of you who are sitting behind a computer saying that shes lying or that shes just all about feminism- You are all immature little fcks. You are probably some fan girl who is obsessed with Kelly because he plays drums in a band. This is not some joke that you should sit there and critisize the chick for. You dont know what actually happened. So why dont you attend the court hearings and see the proof yourself if you want prof so bad?

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:19:11 PM

This dude is now and always has been a fcking creep. If you want to be a fckboy brony friendzony and try and defend him or blame his ex, you're equally as shitty as he is. Stop idolizing band members as if they're not real (and sometime awful) people behind their talent. He's been behaving inappropriately to other girls for years and his ex wouldn't put herself in your line of bullshit victim blaming fire if she wasn't genuinely trying to speak out against domestic abuse/violence.

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:22:13 PM

^why don't you just shoot him in the head for definitely having committed such atrocius crime? 'You gotta believe her no matter what, it's so hard to say this things in public it MUST BE TRUE' fck your belief system, shit's nothing unless she backs her claim and disproves his innocence, period.

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:24:16 PM

"This dude is now and always has been a fcking creep (...)" All those implications man, you act like you spit facts and all you do is sprout conjectures.

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:26:05 PM

I love how the article clearly states 'Kelly Bilan', full name and surname... ...But doesn't even mention the girl's name or the source of her original post.

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:26:17 PM

nobody cares about his garbage band, just sick of this feminist sensationalist bullshit. If she's not blowing smoke, show us the public charges. But no, she releases this the same day as a counterparts video to get them more attention. also "line of fire" she's not in danger, this scene will call her "brave" for dragging her relationship bullshit into the light regardless of truth. Also if this guy has really "always been a creep" she knew what she was getting into.

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:45:17 PM

You can't blame a woman for not knowing he was a creep. She was right to speak out and hopefully warn other girls from letting this happen to them. You're the same douchebags that if this had not been publicized until another woman spoke out would've said "WHY DIDNT SHE SAY SOMETHING? Why didn't let everyone know what he did to her?" There is no winning. Either you're an idiot for staying with someone, an idiot for not speaking up/calling the cops, a liar if you do, or shitty if you don't

anonymous 10/5/2016 12:59:13 PM

^ she's not gonna fck you dude

anonymous 10/5/2016 1:38:56 PM

The problem is that she wasn't hit enough.

anonymous 10/5/2016 1:39:09 PM

shes probably fcking everyone now. Get in line for sloppy 5ths!

anonymous 10/5/2016 1:51:33 PM

Ronnie Radke is stoked

anonymous 10/5/2016 1:57:17 PM

So wait, tumblr girls don't like being choked now?

anonymous 10/5/2016 2:00:47 PM

Not surprised in the least bit. Dude is a piece of shit.

anonymous 10/5/2016 2:35:26 PM

So can we say they're no longer counterparts?

anonymous 10/5/2016 3:12:49 PM

Is Dalton going to interview him?

AnalButt 10/5/2016 3:33:43 PM

Made it to "he drove away all of my male friends"

anonymous 10/5/2016 3:51:47 PM

"gorgeous Dodge" only good part about this thread

anonymous 10/5/2016 3:55:55 PM

The dude's name is Kelly. Should he have been domestic violenced?

anonymous 10/5/2016 3:59:48 PM

i WOULD like 'Lily from AT&T' to abuse me , and leave red marks on my neck with her impresive bust

anonymous 10/5/2016 7:01:09 PM

Thats one bitch whos daddy didnt teach her nuthin

anonymous 10/5/2016 7:41:50 PM

i WOULD like 'Lilly from AT&T' to abuse me , and leave red marks on my neck with her impressive bust(o)_(o)

anonymous 10/5/2016 8:08:53 PM

I don't know what to believe, Ive known him for a while and yes occasionally had our hook ups he's always been nice and gentle with me, never forceful or rude. He is a taco in the face that in every relationship he's ever been in he's cheated and can't seem to stay committed..so I don't know need proof.

anonymous 10/6/2016 12:53:35 AM

Slap this hoe - bassist of silence

anonymous 10/6/2016 2:53:25 AM

All I'm saying is that this same thing happened a few months ago with a musician and everyone started hating him and he killed himself, later turned out that she made it up. Js.

anonymous 10/6/2016 8:16:10 AM

Regardless if he did this or not, his suicide would certainly be welcomed by the vast majority of us inhabiting the Earth. Great stuff, I hope he sees this through. Captcha is PROPRIÉTE Nursery

anonymous 10/6/2016 8:27:12 AM

Lol at tumblr infiltrating this comment section every time an abuse scandal hits. "I'm not looking for attention, but here's a detailed account that absolutely no one outside of this situation should know. Thank you for the support. Not asking for it though. Please don't give me attention from this terrible situation. I'm serial"

anonymous 10/6/2016 11:05:11 AM

Counterparts? I hardly even know her parts! Haha. Thanks, folks. I'll be here most of the week hopefully.

anonymous 10/6/2016 11:20:49 AM

I seriously fcking hope your future daughters are part of the EXTREMELY slim statistic and aren't sexually, mentally or physically abused by their controlling partners. Because if not, I hope you think back to all your Shitty, insensitive comments you make so bravely under your "anonymous" handle and remember what deplorable humans you are.

anonymous 10/6/2016 11:42:44 AM

^ [citation needed]

anonymous 10/6/2016 11:43:46 AM

What dude killed himself

anonymous 10/6/2016 12:22:39 PM

Please, tell me more of your tumblr ways, It's really going to make an effect on us basement dwellers. If I ever have a daughter, she will be raised to know when to leave a toxic relationship and not stick around to let some pathetic moron turn her into one of you. You're not changing anyone's mind by posting your typical tumblr responses on here, you're just feeding the trolls. Away with you, wench.

anonymous 10/6/2016 12:32:48 PM

*basically calls people cowards for posting anonymously* *posts anonymously* ...k

anonymous 10/6/2016 12:33:44 PM

what the fck does this have to do with the band? they have no hand in it other than kicking out the dude. they never made a statement about this, i doubt they even wanted her to post anything about this shit judging by how they didn't indicate anything in their statement about kelly "leaving".

anonymous 10/6/2016 12:42:25 PM

Of course they didn't. Bullshit like this will follow a band bc guilt by association. Miss 'I didn't do this for attention' clearly did it for attention and now the rest of them will have attached to them forever. Lambgoat: Drama and Gossip Generates More Traffic Than News®

anonymous 10/6/2016 1:17:45 PM

These comments are disgusting. Why are you attacking her for reporting being abused? People who know him personally do not seem to be the least bit surprised about what he has done. Anyone who believes she has ulterior motives for releasing this statement needs to remove their rose-coloured glasses and see this buffoon for who he really is- an abuser. Stop with the rumours and victim blaming. Get your heads checked people. Counterparts did the right thing. If you disagree then get fcking bent.

anonymous 10/6/2016 1:19:54 PM

No sympathy for this dumb bitch ..or any of these women who stay around to get thumped on repeatedly

anonymous 10/6/2016 1:32:32 PM

"These comments are disgusting." No u

anonymous 10/6/2016 1:49:09 PM

As intellectual as you tumblrinas try to appear, it really is astounding that you fail to grasp the concept that trolls will continue to troll your efforts, ESPECIALLY when you tread on our home turf. Accept it and move on.

anonymous 10/6/2016 2:13:31 PM

Teach your daughters responsibility for their actions and how they let other people treat them. Stop crying abuse every time a guy doesn't validate your shitty existence or you regret actions you took as an adult. Also women lie about this shit ALL the time, look up how many abuse charges get overturned by innocence projects.

anonymous 10/6/2016 2:35:59 PM

why teach our daughters how to handle being abused? TEACH YOUR SONS NOT TO ABUSE. LMAO. IDIOT.

anonymous 10/6/2016 3:13:34 PM

^ We do, but chicks in this scene have made the definition so elastic that it can be applied to any stupid thing and will instantly be believed

anonymous 10/6/2016 3:24:05 PM

Girls should be nicer to hardcore, without it how would boring, mentally unstable, college drop out 5's be treated like interesting 8's?

anonymous 10/6/2016 3:44:58 PM

Any abuse, neglect, and manipulation I picked up on was from my whore of a mother. You're all hypocrites.

anonymous 10/6/2016 5:46:01 PM

SO MANY BAND MEMBERS IN THE COMMENTS JUICEBOX

anonymous 10/6/2016 5:47:33 PM

Lambgoat commenters and future daughters LOLZ

anonymous 10/6/2016 7:45:28 PM

"She" was at the Opera House show tonight. She doesn't really like any of these bands but had to show up to make a statement that she is "okay" and tell these bands that have toured with Kelly that he is shit and that they should be on "her side". She tries to manipulate everyone in her life, including her family. Oh the tales she tells ... Kelly may not be without his problems but she has a ton of her own shit. Ask her about her own violent episodes that violated Kelly.

anonymous 10/6/2016 8:20:31 PM

I wasn't expecting this at all, but no one was was. He seemed like a genuine, friendly guy the times that I've met him but first impressions aren't everything, I guess.

anonymous 10/6/2016 8:32:09 PM

^^ ARE YOU STUPID JUICEBOX ALSO 100TH COMMENT

anonymous 10/7/2016 5:19:56 AM

I love how enlightened this scene acts until the minute somebody is accused of something without any proof and it immediately turns into Salem.

anonymous 10/7/2016 6:20:24 PM

Pics of the physical violence or it never happened. This is slander on her behalf considering what he lost. "Romanticized my abuser" Best justification yet.

anonymous 10/7/2016 6:35:06 PM

FREE KELLY AND DERRICK ROSE

anonymous 10/7/2016 6:55:55 PM

behaviour

anonymous 10/8/2016 6:04:40 AM

equal rights equal fights, bitch can't square up.

anonymous 10/9/2016 9:07:12 AM

*Count*her*bruised*Parts* seriously though, do you guys know the atrocity behind fifteen Million battered women these days? they didn't listen the FIRST TIME!!!!!!after all of these years, I have been eating them PLAIN!!!do you remember what you say to a woman with two black eyes? "NICE t-ts!!!!"

anonymous 10/9/2016 1:22:46 PM

I've known Kelly for more than 10 years and I've known Tiff for quite some time as well. I believe Kelly is capable of doing something like this. He acts very inappropriately towards women and always has. That being said, I don't believe she is some martyr offering up her story for the sake of other women. She did this to hurt him and it obviously worked.

anonymous 10/12/2016 1:35:11 AM

i looked this guy up and he's small as fck. if you can't defend yourself against a guy with the build of a little girl then you deserve what you get!!!

anonymous 3/19/2017 1:23:18 AM

I want pictures of the marks on her neck. This sounds fcking exaggerated and made up. She says he lunged at her "as if" he was going to strike her. Seems like he just fcked with her a bunch and dissed her, just jokingly but she was hypersensitive. I've met Kelly and I just don't see it. fck this.

anonymous 6/30/2017 2:17:03 AM

Pretty sure she's a whore that changed the whole story.

anonymous 5/30/2020 5:06:46 PM

Holy fck its actually insane reading all these comments, pretty clear kelly came in here him self leaving anonymous comments thinking he'd get people on his side, what a dirtbag, good thing his life was taken away from him and he doesnt play in bands anymore.

anonymous 11/22/2022 1:26:43 PM

This comments section is exactly why I hate the metal community. Misogynistic losers with nothing better to do than prove how insecure they are with their masculinity in an anonymous comments section. Don't bother responding, you probably don't want to prove me right...

anonymous 1/16/2023 6:19:39 AM

The "report abuse" button on all these comments rings rather ironic.




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